Do Women Really Have An Expiry Date When It Comes To Marriage?

Whether it’s Twitter that the discussion takes place or whether it’s in real life between peers, the argument seemingly remains

Whether it’s Twitter that the discussion takes place or whether it’s in real life between peers, the argument seemingly remains the same: women need to get married early to avoid crossing their expiry date.

Women are utterly fed up with being told this and mumble under their breath that nope, they’ll do whatever they want to thank you very much. Yet you see as they edge closer to the societal benchmark of ‘expiry date’ with much trepidation they begin to actively seek out ways to avert the impending disaster.

You’ll see women taking things into their own hands by signing up for all the social media platforms where respectable, ‘God-fearing’ hopefully lurk and going out to everything, from weddings to group holidays. Why? Because the obvious first point of resolving the catastrophe is by averting the disaster.

But what is the almighty ‘expiry date’ that we speak of?

It would make a lot of sense if we were referring to women’s biological clock alone but sadly this is not the case.

Society, which has long since deemed itself the judge, persecutor, and jury of topics, has extended the expiry date to not just the biological clock but rather to every facet of a woman’s being.

Whether it’s career, relationships, or lack of it in some cases, or children, women are dictated the when’s how’s yet never provided with the why’s. You know, because women should faithfully follow the commandments of the society which of course let’s not forget is highly male driven and piloted.
The society has hence proceeded to view women as products or commodities that when left too long upon a shelf shall wither, shrivel or decay. The general consensus is that when a woman hits the 30 mark she should be happily married and have at least two children in order to be considered successful.

Never mind if she is the managing director in a company or if she has just finished earning her Ph.D., these things are of no importance when she is not a Mrs with children suckling on her breasts.

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Why aren’t we getting rid of it?

It’s much easier said than done. If you hopped on Twitter at any given time I assure you, you’ll find someone in some obscure part debating on it and shouting (with caps lock on) that allowing women do whatever they want should be how we all function.

But it’s rarely that simple. If you take a look at Linda Ikeji’s comment section, for example, you’ll clearly see comments unrelated to the post with people remarking that “wow you look beautiful but what is all this beauty if you’re still single?”

She has been the butt of many jokes but as she’s shown, it’s perfectly fine to get your grind on and decide to dedicate your focus on your career. She did of course just announce that she is pregnant and some months prior revealed that she was proposed to all at the age of 37.

A great middle finger to the ‘expiry date’ gatekeepers huh?

Still, for every Linda Ikeji glory story you bring to the table the other side of the debate are bringing 50 cases akin to Oprah’s. Oprah, a successful woman who not only dominated daytime television but went on to own various media productions yet unmarried and without children. “A disgrace”, they’ll tell you, “all that money yet no husband or children.”

Women are allowed to not want children or a husband

And guess what? It’s perfectly okay! Unfortunately, a lot of men are yet to see beyond the biological capabilities of a woman to understand that there is so much more a woman wants to do. Women have dreams, aspirations, and goals which, rightly so, should not revolve around the institution of marriage or the delivery room.

Perhaps if more women learned to be less afraid of men’s jabs of “you’ll turn 30 and end up at Shiloh” or “if you make too much money nobody will marry you” in order to do what they want. Not what society wants. Not what their parents want but what they want and is best for them.

Marriage is a lifelong commitment and one hell of a long time to be unhappy or having a kid you’ll feel entirely resentful towards is certainly not something you want to burden a child with.

To answer the question posed, no women, you do not have an expiry date and even if you are nearing menopause, science has developed well past the point of being bothered about that. There are options available like surrogate mothers, freezing your eggs and even adoption.

Really, it’s 2018. Can we stop with the ‘expiry date’ threat now?

 

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The Official Portraits From The #RoyalWedding Will Get You All Mushy

In case you thought we were finally over the Royal Wedding well, we’re not!  How beautiful are these official portraits

In case you thought we were finally over the Royal Wedding well, we’re not! 

How beautiful are these official portraits from the Duke and Duchess of Sussex’s big day?

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#RoyalWedding: Kate Middleton Just Might Be The Real Snapback Queen!

Barely a month after she welcomed her third child, Kate Middleton is back to slaying royal events like the princess

Barely a month after she welcomed her third child, Kate Middleton is back to slaying royal events like the princess she is.

The Duchess of Cambridge showed off her post-baby body as she attended her brother-in-law’s wedding today wearing a gorgeous cream coat dress and nude heels.

Her date for the wedding was her little daughter Princess Charlotte who looked adorable in her cute white frock and flower crown for her flower girl duties.

 

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See How Meghan Markle’s Uninvited Extended Family Arrived London For Her Wedding Which Holds On Saturday

Members of Meghan Markle’s extended family have jetted out to London despite not being invited for the royal wedding this

Members of Meghan Markle’s extended family have jetted out to London despite not being invited for the royal wedding this weekend.

The entourage which includes Meghan’s half-brother Thomas Markle Jr., his wife Tracy Dooley and her nephews Tyler and his brother Thomas Dooley arrived at London Heathrow Airport yesterday.

Though they were not given an invite, the family does have a purpose for being in London as they will be special correspondents on “Good Morning Britain”.

Read: Meghan Markle’s Dad To Miss His Daughter’s Royal Wedding After They Fell Out Over Paparazzi Deal

Meghan Markle’s father, however, will not be attending the ceremony as he is battling with severe chest pains, following a heart attack he suffered 6 days ago. He also doesn’t want to embarrass the Royal Family or his daughter after they had a fallout over him selling photos of himself to paparazzi.

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“I’m The Luckiest Mom In The World”- Kim Kardashian Writes As She Shares Adorable Photo With Her Kids For Mothers Day

Yesterday was Mothers’ Day in America and to celebrate, Kim Kardashian shared an adorable picture of her with her three

Yesterday was Mothers’ Day in America and to celebrate, Kim Kardashian shared an adorable picture of her with her three kids, North, Saint and Chicago.

Her caption read:

“You don’t even understand how many lollipop bribes this pic cost me…but it was so worth. Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms out there. I’m the luckiest mom in the world to have these three babies in my life!”

Check out the post below;

 

 

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See The Lovely Throwback Photo Waje’s Daughter Emerald Shared For Mother’s Day

Today is Mother’s Sunday and Emerald, the teenage daughter of Nigerian singer Waje has the cutest words for her mother.

Today is Mother’s Sunday and Emerald, the teenage daughter of Nigerian singer Waje has the cutest words for her mother.

Emerald shared a couple of photos including a throwback photo of her as a baby, being carried by her mother, describing Waje as her “Troublemaker and Lover”

See her post below:

 

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Donald Trump Jr. Is Now Reportedly ‘Dating’ Fox News Host Kimberly Guilfoyle

Just two months after Donald Trump Jr. announced his divorce from his wife of 13 years, Vanessa Trump, the son of the President

Just two months after Donald Trump Jr. announced his divorce from his wife of 13 years, Vanessa Trump, the son of the President of the United States is rumoured to be currently dating Fox News host, Kimberly Guilfoyle.

According to Page Six, the US president’s eldest son has been dating Guilfoyle for “a few weeks” now

According to a source who contacted spoke to the media outlet:, ‘The relationship is still young, and Don Jr. is asking for some privacy to give the power couple’s love a chance to blossom.’

To add credibility to the story the rumoured couple was seen arriving together at a party hosted by Bill White and Bryan Eure for President Trump’s new ambassador to Germany, Richard Grenell, on Sunday evening. They mingled with guests but stuck close to each other, and later left together, also heading for a late dinner at Harry Cipriani on Fifth Avenue.’

Donald Jnr and ex-wife Vanessa who got married in November 2005 before going their separate ways this year They have five children together namely, Kai, Donald III, Spencer, Tristan and Chloe Trump.

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Family Drama: Blac Chyna’s Mother Calls Her Out On Social Media

Blac Chyna‘s mother, Tokyo Toni, recently called out her out on Instagram in a series of videos. According to Toni,

Blac Chyna‘s mother, Tokyo Toni, recently called out her out on Instagram in a series of videos. According to Toni, Chyna has lost her way and has deprived her from seeing her two grandchildren, King Cairo Stevenson and Dream Kardashian.

READ ALSO: Blac Chyna’s 18 Year Old Boyfriend Reveals Why The Couple Doesn’t Use A Condom

Here’s what she said:

‘Two years in a row. I’m going on my second year of not seeing my grands.Yes, they are her children. And I’m not the only person that deals with this s–t. Hollywood is so demon-filled, it changes people. We was just chilling. I was just on [her] reality show. I’ve cried my last tear. Now, I’m angry. My kid is gone and I’m gonna accept that. I don’t know what her problem is but you b—-es in California, get the f–k away from her.Oh, I can’t take you away from her because she’s a grown a– b—h? But I tell you this, if any f–king thing happen to her, I’m going to f–king jail for life. Get them away from you, Chyna. That n—- too.”I walk alone but yet you put all these people in front of me. Your friends you hang [with] are pieces of s–t. They will send you to hell rob you and f–k your man and your woman,” Toni wrote in the caption of one video. “You could’ve given me a call [as] opposed to going online. What’s really going on? Who is really in your head? Who was really on the phone or standing there coaching you, from what it sounded like to me. You still have not called and apologize to me. I did nothing to you but love you raise you protect you and be your f–king foot stool b—h. You have these yes b—hes around you all… day they don’t give a f–k about you. It’s obvious dummy [sic].I have to talk to you on online!!Well, I am about to do an interview with whom ever for a check now [sic]… I remember asking you for $20 not long ago and didn’t get a response. I remember telling you I was starving to death it felt like my stomach was going to fall to the floor and never got a response. I told you I was stuck in the snow with no gas in my car, I called you and no response. I spoke with you on the phone maybe three to four times otherwise I have to talk to you through your assistant. What mother has to do that!!! Don’t worry, the first person they get $200,000, I’m coming through no love lost. She raged war against me, her mother, the only b—h breathing that will f–king die for her funky a–.I took 424 million people — those are the Kardashians fans — on. But b—h, I’m still here for you. You better come to me and apologize on your f–king knees.’

CHECK THIS OUT: The Kardashians Want To Destroy My Career – Blac Chyna Cries Out

You can watch Toni’s videos below:

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These Adorable Photos Of Chris Brown And His Daughter Royalty Will Warm Your Heart

Chris Brown might be a lot of things to different people but there’s no doubt he is an amazing dad

Chris Brown might be a lot of things to different people but there’s no doubt he is an amazing dad to his daughter Royalty.

These adorable photos of the both of them is all the proof you need.

Adorable photos of Chris Brown and his daughter Royalty

Adorable photos of Chris Brown and his daughter Royalty

 

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It Will Be Difficult For Me To Cheat On My Wife – Teju Baby Face

  Olateju Oyelakin, popularly known as Teju Babyface, and his adorable wife, Oluwatobiloba, are one extremely happy couple right now.

 

Olateju Oyelakin, popularly known as Teju Babyface, and his adorable wife, Oluwatobiloba, are one extremely happy couple right now. Those who have seen them lately say they are over the moon with joy and are simply too excited to pay attention to any other thing other than the incredible gift that just arrived their home. A couple of weeks ago, the good news broke that Teju and his wife, Tobi, who have been married for close to 6 years finally welcomed their first babies, a set of twins. Expectedly, everyone who knows the incredibly talented Teju and his sweetheart screamed joyfully for them.

 

It was an elated Teju who took to his Instagram page and wrote:” Please, rejoice with us! My wife, Oluwatobiloba @tobibanjokooyelakin and I are very grateful and excited parents of twin children. It has taken us almost six years but God who neither forgets nor forsakes has given us double for our trouble. I pray that the God whom we serve will remember everyone who seeks him and give you the desires of your heart.”

 

Barely a week before his wife, Tobi, put to bed, City People’s Senior Editor, WALE LAWAL, had an exciting interview with Teju and requested him to share with us things he probably hadn’t shared with the public before about his wife whom he showers unbridled affection on even when he’s on national television. He did. The talk show host and celebrated mentor and motivational speaker revealed to us how he met his wife and why he loves her so much it would be difficult for him to consider cheating on her.

You have been married for about six years now, how would you say marriage has changed you?

Marriage has taken away most of my indiscipline and has helped me to keep it on a strong leash. I was telling somebody yesterday that the reason why I try to be a faithful husband is not because I am holier or more righteous than most, there are several reasons. One of them is because I lack a sense of proportion, that is because I really don’t know how to do things in moderation. If I was a drinker, I would probably be drinking excessively.

But thank God alcohol doesn’t hold any interest for me. If I was a smoker I’ll probably smoke excessively. What I did do was that I liked to hang out with girls, which I did excessively. What marriage has done for me is that it’s allowed me to keep my focus on God by keeping my focus on one woman. Nature abhors a vacuum, so I couldn’t have been the kind of man I desired to be without a wife. Having a wife has helped me to try to be that disciplined person amongst all other things. Marrying a good woman also helps you develop greatly. In my lowest moments sometimes, my wife looks at me and just says to me some really wonderful things.

You seldom hide your love and admiration for your wife, you always talk about her on air. Share with us the first thing that struck your mind when you first saw her.

(Smiles) This girl is fine, that’s what I said to myself. I like that she was beautiful in the kind of way that I like women to be beautiful. If I had to take a pencil and draw a beautiful woman, I would draw her almost exactly like my wife. But I guess what I was seeing was not only how she looked outwardly, I guess what I was seeing more was what I was seeing through her eyes. Because she behaved exactly the way I expected somebody who looked like her to behave when I spoke to her. She didn’t give me the time of day. She just blew me off.

She wasn’t fazed by the fact that you are a celebrity or something?

(He shakes head) It was like she didn’t even know me. I almost said that, ah, don’t you know me? The second time I saw her as well, it was the same thing. She also didn’t give me the time of the day. And then, one day I saw her again. She was also involved in the entertainment industry on the fringes. She was doing make –up, so we were bumping into each other once in a while. So, this fourth time, I bumped into her again and she was suddenly very nice. I was like, what has changed? And from there, the rest, as they say, is history.

Tell us the three things that you admire the most about your wife

I like that she’s a child of God. And I don’t say that to pass her off as a church going person, though she goes to church a lot. She has a relationship with God. One day, we were somewhere with my mum where anybody who greeted my mum, mum went, God bless you in Jesus name. Jesus! Jesus! To which my wife said, momsie, sha, Jesus! Jesus! Every time. And I looked and said, don’t you know that you’re the same? Don’t you know this is how you would actually end up? Don’t you know your own children too would be saying this about you? She said, really?

 

I said, you don’t know? That everything out of your mouth is thank you, Jesus. Thank you, Jesus! That’s my wife. So, I like that she’s a daughter of God in that sense. She actually has a relationship with Him and that forms the basis for everything. My wife doesn’t like fight. In fact, it’s one of the things she won my heart with when we were dating. No matter who was at fault, she would always apologize that same day.

 

The sun never went down on our fights when we were dating. The sun goes down on our fights now that we’re married because after all, she has caught me finish, she can afford to do small shakara. But I guess in the sense that we live in the same house now anyway, she figures that if we don’t make up this night, we’ll make up in the morning. But when we weren’t living in the same house, she always made sure we sorted out our fights promptly. And my father used to say that girl is wise, she stoops to conquer, that’s what my father used to say. He used to say to me that I should look out for that when I wanted to marry a woman.

 

That I should marry a woman who stoops to conquer. He said obviously you’re going to marry a beautiful wife, a woman who’s going to be a champion. She’s going to be beautiful both in and out and quite a number of men are going to be on her case. One of the tests of knowing whether or not she’s a good woman and that she appreciates the man she’s about to marry, that being you, is that no matter how beautiful she is and no matter how many men are chasing her, when it comes to your case, she will always stoop to conquer. Even when you are at fault, she will swallow her pride and apologize. It was as if my wife was a fly on the wall listening to what my father was saying because she did that perfectly. No matter whose fault it was she would always apologize and that won her a place in my heart. The third is a bit related to that. She’s just a good-hearted person.

 

I always hear that testimony from people. I remember we were once at Eko hotel when a man walked up to me and introduced himself, a big man in Lagos. Big man in Lagos and not with a very good reputation with young girls. He said I hear you’re about to marry…my wife was in that hall working as a make- up artist, and he pointed to her. I said yes. He said I know her. She’s a good girl. He said you’re lucky. I looked at him, he said you don’t understand me, I am telling you that you’re lucky, you have got a very good girl. And I always hear stuff like that, your wife is a good woman, she has a good heart. Yeah, so those are the three things I love about her.

You will definitely still be having quite some difficulty warding off the ladies. Yes, you’re married, but a lot of them do not care if the celebrity they admire is married or not, you’re still as good looking as you used to be several years ago when you first hit the limelight, so they won’t stop coming for you. How do you deal with this?

I’ve already told you I don’t go out. It’s hard for you to come and admire me in my house now. Will you come and admire me in our home? You say I carry my wife on my head and I talk about her, it’s also a defence mechanism, which is why marrying a beautiful woman should not be downplayed. People downplay it a lot. They say beauty comes from within, that’s true. Now, am I saying if a woman is not beautiful, don’t marry her?

No, that’s not what I’ve said. I’ve basically said that we’re different and God made you a certain way and He has provided a mate for you. In my own case, I think it was important that I married a woman who was beautiful both within and without. Why have I said this? I carry my wife on my head because I love her. But unknown to me, when God was prompting me to carry her on my head, talk about her on teevee, I didn’t know what God was doing, I only found out later. I didn’t know that though I was talking about her out of love and affection, I didn’t know that it was also a defensive mechanism.

I only found out later that when a girl would say to, maybe her friend, that I like that Teju Babyface boy, I found out later that her friend would probably say to her, you better respect yourself! Have you seen his wife? You are not even fine, have you seen how beautiful his wife is? Of course, many will say there are many men who have beautiful wives and still go after other women outside, that’s true, except that this one not only has a beautiful wife, he also carries her on his head! And on top of that, he says he’s a mentor again, encouraging people and telling them to change their lives.

God seems to have built a sort of defence around me. In fact, God has made it so now that if I wanted to cheat on my wife it would probably be very difficult based on how I’ve built it around myself. Okay, so, if I get to a hotel now and they see me across the counter and I book a room, first of all, they’ll be wondering who’s coming to join me, then they see a girl, hen! Second, where will I tell my wife I’m going? And my staff, my driver, who are always with me? What do I tell them? They’ll start saying, Oga, ah.Let’s even assume that I get through all that, what about the girl herself, she’ll now go outside and say she slept with me. Maybe one day I could be on Instagram preaching, and she sees me, what will she say?

Really, it’s hard. But regardless of all that, somebody who wants to cheat will still cheat. For me, God has shown me a bit of the future. And I liked what He showed me too much for me to give it up for hedonism or pleasures of the flesh. Now, am I saying that I’m not tempted? No, I’m a man now. Before I got married, I was a boy and a balling boy at that. I wasn’t a church boy. I was a boy in town. One is tempted. Sometimes it’s very difficult, but like I said, I liked what God showed me too much.

 

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