Lessons For Career Maniacs, Feminists And Same-sex Marriage Advocates In Nigeria, Other Developing Nations
It is no longer news that the long awaited wedding between Prince Harry – the 6th in order of succession to the British throne and Meghan Markle has come and gone on Saturday 19th May, 2018.
This wedding has kept both the main stream and social media awash with write-ups expressing divergent and biased opinion from different quarters, especially some of our Nigerian ladies who now see marriage as a bond between “equals” without credence to our sociocultural background as Africans.
Firstly, it is worthy of note that marriage has to do with self-giving and submissiveness as exemplified my Meghan. Despite having a successful career as both an actress and blogger, Meghan didn’t waste time in jettisoning her acting career for the sake of her marriage. She announced her resignation from acting as soon as they were done with their engagement on the 27th of December 2017.
This probably she did in order to assume her position as a wife without distractions and the frivolities of life. This action must have been done following direction from her husband who probably needed her to be a wife, a real and ideal wife.
More so, Meghan did not argue with her husband on the choice of religion/church. She unreservedly submitted herself to her husband’s church – the church of England Anglican Communion wherein she was baptized on March 6 2018 by the Archbishop of Canterbury Justin Welby, despite been a Protestant (Pentecostal).
This is pure self denial for the sake of her marriage, knowing the sacredness of the institution and the need for the woman to submit herself to her husband as enjoined by the Bible (cf. Ephesians 5:22). This presents Meghan as a true woman who understands the place and nature of womanhood. Many feminists and successful ladies from this part of the world may want it to go their way.
They may see marriage as a social bond instead of a spiritual bond that amplifies the Biblical injunctions. They might even want a situation where the man may have to leave his own church or probably allow them to carry on with their career, even when it does not suit his fancy.
Not withstanding the fact that Meghan is three years older than Prince Harry; not minding that experience wise, Meghan has got more experience via her previous marriage, she still submitted herself in all ramifications to her husband who has obviously become her lord and master courtesy of holy matrimony.
It there becomes crystal clear to all that marriage is not a bond between equals as two captains cannot be in the same ship; rather between unequals (equals in love). It’s not a bond between a man and another man nor a woman and another woman; instead, a man and a woman.
Marriage should be priced above the woman’s career, ego, and social status. It is even more than the woman’s religion or faith. If love lands you in the hands of a man, it calls for submission, self-giving and self-emptying by both parties; more still, on the part of the woman.
Therefore, all advocates of same sex marriage and equal rights between men and women in marriage should understand that these are in contrast to the divine order. They are against the principles upon which marriage is established. In the light of this therefore, feminist, same sex marriage and gender equality advocates should learn deeply from the marriage of Prince Harry (Henry Charles Alber David) and Meghan Markle, the Duke and Duchess of Sussex KCVO.
Happy married life to Duke Harry and Duchess Meghan.
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